Doesn’t Parenting Come Naturally?

There are those who believe that when parents come to understand the importance of the relationship between themselves and their child, when they are truly attached to the child, then parenting, knowing what to do, will come naturally and instinctively.

My expertise lies in guiding parents to raise children to become capable and self-disciplined adults. I believe that the relationship between parent and child is the rock, the foundation of the parenting dynamic. That relationship is essential before any real parenting can take place. But, it isn’t as simple as that. Most of the parents I speak with really care about their children; they are connected, they are attached.

I believe that good nutrition is important. The better we eat, the healthier we are. But simply knowing that does not mean I will eat well. I need training. I need to learn about different foods, how to use the stove and microwave. I need to learn how to cook and what to cook. Then I will eat well. It certainly takes more than instinct.

So, how do we become informed parents?

We all have a responsibility to our children to be the best parents we can be, and that includes finding and using the best information we can. The first step in looking for parent education is to check the credentials of the teacher. Look for the initials C.C.F.E. (Certified Canadian Family Educator) after her name.

There are basic differences between a one-shot workshop or keynote address and a full-scale parenting course. While a two-hour session or workshop can provide insight into a narrow topic, it takes a full parenting course to explore the full dynamics of the topic.

In a multi-day course you can expect that the leader can over time adjust the material to meet the needs of the group, handle specific issues as presented, provide a variety of learning experiences and answer questions.)

There are also books, magazines and workplace wellness programs. There are websites with lots of articles available for free. But be aware and check the credentials of the author. Many authors of parenting books have articles on-line. It’s a great way to check them out before you buy.

When choosing a parenting program avoid those that imply that the child is somehow the enemy and that there are simple and foolproof answers. Completely avoid any parenting education sources that support any physical punishment of children.

It is simply not enough for us to love our children and be attached to them. We need to get down to the tough job of parenting our kids.

Parents don’t have to make it up as they go along. When we have a parenting plan in place, it makes the job easier. It enhances the relationship and gives everyone in the family more time for fun.

Vive la Différence

There are so many times when we are raising our kids when we note their differences.  My mini guide e-book , Vive la Différence: Raising Children with Different Temperaments addresses this.

I have always known that each child is a unique individual. I looked at my two who are as different as night and day. Then I consider my siblings and we are a textbook example of different.

But, now I have three grandchildren, all the same age and the differences from their births has been striking.

The result is the e-parenting mini guide, Vive la Différence: Raising Children with Different Temperaments.  The guide is available on my website.

 Bringing Parenting Today to your event

Parenting Today is keen to speak as part of your professional development event, parenting workshop or workplace wellness support program. I offer keynotes and workshops, have written books and have ongoing newspaper columns, books, blogs and newsletters.

And, no matter what the actual topic, they all share a basic value that I call:

P.U.R.E. Parenting.

P — is a parenting plan

U — is unconditional love

R — is respect for your child as he is right now

E — is encouragement

These make up the framework of any resources that will come from Parenting Today. These four pillars are the essential ingredients for raising healthy children who will develop into capable young men and women.

 

 

Posted in Family Concerns, Infants, News, Preschoolers, School-Age, Teens, Toddlers | 1 Comment

One Response to Doesn’t Parenting Come Naturally?

  1. Joan Barrett says:

    Hi Kathy, everything you said in your blog is so true. I am a parent educator for 27 years. I have raised my six children in the Adlerian Philosophy. When I first attended a parenting course I knew it was the way I wanted to raise my children. What I found the best for me was the personal growth and learning about myself. I have often said, it was the best gift I could have given to my family (which includes my husband)! I’m very passionate about parent education and helping parents to be more effective as parents. However, I get a little discouraged at times when, I see how some parents are struggling to meet the daily challenges with their children. Thank you for sharing your blog. Joan Barrett

Leave a Reply to Joan Barrett Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *